Are you and your partner on the same page when it comes to retirement or are you reading different books? This simple assessment will help you get a quick glimpse into how you each view your communication around some important topics.
Instructions: Do the assessment separately and then share your results.
Put a T after the statements you believe are True. Notice the areas that you may need to be talking more about.
1. My partner and I make important decisions together.
2. We agree on how to manage our finances and resources.
3. We have planned our timetable for retirement.
4. Conversations have included our hopes and dreams for the future.
5. We spend time together doing things we both enjoy.
6. We agree that we need to have time together as well as time apart.
7. We have planned for our future medical and health care needs.
8. Intimacy and affection are an important part of our relationship.
9. We agree on obligations and responsibilities to family.
10. Social and community connections are a satisfying part of our lives.
Where do you fall on the scale below? How many T’s do you have in common? Remember, this is meant to be a helpful indicator for opening up communication. No blaming or shaming allowed!
10 Give each other a big hug. You’re ready to write the “How To” book for couples.
6-9 Sounds like you’re in synch. Ongoing communication is important as you plan for
what’s next.
5-8 You’re on the right track. Practice listening to each other and sharing what’s important to you.
1-4 You’re not alone. Many couples need help talking about some of the important issues related to retirement and what’s next.
Let us know how you did. Got questions? Ask them here on the blog in the comments section.
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